I don't know if this is a question or a rant but once you get into relationships, women get so emotional and start expecting somethings and i am not naturally like that.
I started dating this girl 2 month back and i just could not cope. If i tell her i am travelling she will call me like 4 times at different internals asking me i have eaten ( i really don't want anyone to ask me if i have eaten ) really and some other too emotional and cringing questions. I don't really like it and also they expect you to call everyday, like why?
I am not an emotional person and i don't just like these behavior of constantly talking or asking some emotional questions or telling someone "I love you" i really can't
I am a type of person that like to discuss serious or intellectual things and if something is necessary i will do it, lastly i told her i can't cope with that.
can't you have a relationship with someone where you just support each other genuinely without too much emotions beings exchanged.
I think we are both on the same level, coz It feels like nagging to me and I only want to talk abt such wen I wish to
every lady has her own love language, buh most of us want sum1 that shows care, lyk talking, caring for each other, if u know that u don't lyk too much call, u let her know @ first if she's okay with it , because we ladies r always emotional especially to sum1 we care for, for her to be asking u hv u eaten I think s a sign of care, though me as a lady too, I don't like sum1 to ask me hv I eaten except if dere s something dat attached to dat, buh for sum1 u want to build ur future with I don't think dere s anything wrong in her asking, hw far Abt ur travels, s because she cares, but please what u will do s js dat, u need communication, js talk it out, I think it will b better, let her understand u ND u understand her, that y we r call human being not always perfect.
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I also have a friend like that, but we ladies want someone that will show us love and care in that way we feel that the person live us and we feel happy about it. when he don’t call us for some days we feel like maybe he don’t want us anymore. since you don’t like it you just tell her that I’m sure she will understand that. but showing us ladies love and care is an amazing feeling
Gaskiya Nima am like that but is better daga fadamata idan Zata iya fine idan kuma bazata iya kuyi wishing juna alkari
Same here wallah d same thing happened to me friend dina ta hada ni da wani guy kin San kafin ma yazo gidan mu muka Rabu BCS bazan iya ba
Dear poster we are almost on the same level I hate nagging but ur case is too much bcos we ladies love someone that cares but why can’t you let her know..talk to her about what you don’t like let her know
I think since you like to discuss intellectual things your love language would be deep meaningful conversations. It’s easier to connect with someone when you truly enjoy their company but that’s if they do what you like and vice versa you do what they like. For many intellectuals it’s totally normal not to like the emotional stuffs (I love you, I can’t stop thinking about you etc.) all the time and that’s okay. I’m an intellectual as well and I find those things to be just surface level. Anyone can say those things (and some don’t even mean it). The more it’s said to me the less value it holds for me personally. Im a ‘Less is More’ type of person.
You are your own person and should choose a person that you are compatible with.
let me tell you first, there’s this book called ‘the five love languages by Gary Chapman’ I think you should read it....secondly, let’s not lie, constant reassurance in a relationship is sweet...she’s just trying to show you that she care...but one thing I know is that too much of it is exhausting especially if that’s the only thing you talk about..
take me for example, in a relationship, I want to know the person I’m dating and not just romantically but intellectually as well, I love having deep conversations with people...then I suggest you should communicate and let that person know the kind of person you are...and you should be the one to initiate such conversations before she gets used to it...you’re welcome💙
da mutun yaso da kar yaso hakan ko a wane yanayi yake zan iya zama dashi.
my brother are you sure you are into her ? I feel this things come naturally you don’t know when you do them ,but that’s only when you love somebody .I’m also a person that loves intellectual discussion ,I love to brainstorm and rub minds with my small circle but truly am I’m very expressive . if I like a person I can say I love you a hundred times and it never feels like a burden ,I feel it’s the fastest way of being vocal . we all have different love languages but zancen gaksiya shine se idan kana tare da Wanda kake so , words of affirmation and reassurance are very essential in relationships.Allah baka dai dai kai
maybe dats her own view about how to keep her man from other ladies out there dats y she's giving u a close marking 🤭ko kuma sabon shiga love ne😂 she's never experienced d feeling before or u have a low emotional feeling when it comes to love.
Yes I am, she is actually a good person to be honest, but i don't like the too much attachment she is dragging me into, she calls everyday and if i don't she will ask why.
sometimes i just want a break irin 1 - 2 days haka. but ita kullun ai ta magana ana wasu emotional abubuwa i don't like it and she is not the only even other women i've dated have those traits.
I am naturally not like that, it makes me uncomfortable really.
As most of you have commented, mentioning ladies are naturally like that and see it as care and affection, then marriage is not for me gaskiya because i know i can't do all that genuinely and i will not fake it.
I have given up on relationships. i believe there is alot to do in this world though and so much to accomplish and learn.
I will just continue to live in my 2 bedroom apartment :-)
It not just her, most of you ladies are like that.
I understand, its not just that her, all of the ladies i have engaged with are like that,
Daily calls
Love text
ETC
I am serious person, straight forward I will rather discuss educational or challenges topics with someone than just be exchanging some corny emotional phrases that really add no value to neither me nor her.
aaaaah, we rest out case nw,
yes or will you volunteer to find me someone based on my preference?
I think we can connect, I don't bother about much calls nor corny things... I'm intellectually sound as well... I hope we connect
also are u on d Match making platform or we have to exchange contact?
sum1 has volunteer, I wish u pple Good luck
i was actually just kidding.
not ready to embark on a relationship now. perhaps later in life.
you should understand women are Naturally emotional, and for the fact that she calls often I think it’s a way of her saying she really cares.
Thanks for the offer, I would have liked to connect with you in this circumstance though presently I am extremely busy and just not ready for another relationship perhaps in the next 1 year i can try again.
I have alot of work and affairs to attend to and i really need to focus 100% on that.
Also I have not yet personally decided on marriage
I don't want to commit to you when i know sincerely i'm not ready and not among my plans, i hope you understand and i am not on the matchmaking platform to answer your question.
That is what everyone has been saying. its okay
Mr intellectual i think getting a professor or a lecturer should be a top priority for you…. not relationship…
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