I want to get Married but haven't earned much and its disturbing me.
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Anonymous Aug 14, 03:15 PM

I want to get Married but haven't earned much and its disturbing me. 1

I am a man, just started working in Abuja about 5 months ago, my earning is about 300k in a month, all in all. I spend about 50% every month, so i have not saved much and i really want to get married because i am scared of falling into zina, i have tried fasting but no avail, i am just trying to suppress my feeling everyday and its beginning to disturb me. Also i know i can't afford to get married until at least i save up for 2 years to be able to afford the expenses. Please what can I do ??? its a big problem for me and i can't discuss with anyone. if you have any suggestions or advice please tell me.
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Anonymous #1 Aug 14, 03:34 PM
of course you can get married. with the little you earn. talk to your spouse, she will agreed with you. isn't about expensive married albarka sure a keso
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Anonymous Aug 14, 03:43 PM

I don't have any one for now but my main concern is i need to save up to be a able to afford a good standard of living, you know rent in Abuja alone is expensive about 2m for a two bedroom and also other expenses that will come with the marriage, i am not after any expensive wedding but i know i am going to self sponsor my marriage and what comes with it, so i need time to save really, which will take atleast a year and a half or two years. For the mean time how can i avoid falling into haram I really need help
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Anonymous #2 Aug 14, 03:46 PM
ikon Allah kenan. rayuwa kala daban daban. this your salary is twice mine, i am also living in Abuja. i also started working here 4 months ago (tho i was working before coming here). but i am getting married this year December in sha Allah. and Alhamdulillah even though i am not earning much, but what i earn i know in sha Allah will sustain me and my wife for now before things turn to better. so what i am trying to tell you is just know yourself and your capacity and have a wife that will understand your situation. fakat
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Bashabdul0 Aug 14, 04:06 PM
taking into accord why, when and how you started is a good thing. like you said, saving for marriage is somehow complicated for many but trust me, when you consider those earning less and living fine, am sure you will also plan how. like you said, everyone knows life in abj is expensive, but still you can adjust to it and still survive with little. getting a spouse who will understand and be with you with the little you have is also a way out. keep praying and fasting and insha Allah a better way will prevail
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Anonymous Aug 14, 04:13 PM

maybe you have the support of your parents or guardians in sponsoring my marriage, I really don't have much saving as i am only sustaining myself and i will be the one to largely sponsor my marriage. so that's why.
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Ammma Aug 14, 04:21 PM
Dear poster that’s a reasonable salary to start your live with in less than a year except you want to live a luxury life….you’ll have to start from somewhere..you don’t have to live in a 2m apartment in Abuja…you don’t have to drive luxury car..just get the basics and start from there!!…most importantly pray for a righteous spouse that way things will be much more easier for you In Sha Allah….
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Anonymous #1 Aug 14, 04:34 PM

Dont take things hard to yourself. you should live around Abuja the rent is less expensive like lugbe, phape, kuje and any other place. is less expensive the rent
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S B SALISIYA Aug 14, 10:49 PM

may be kai kna da muhalli KO kuma wurin DA zaka aje matar. Amma shi yace baida to kaga at least ya kmta ya tanadi second sources dazai kawo masa kudi tayanda zasu rayu cikin yan abuja kuma Su saje.
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Anonymous Aug 15, 12:34 AM

With the increase in fuel price and monthly feeding, its very difficult to live on 100k monthly Fuel only takes 50k, then food also. which takes almost that and I have other needs. But i am able to save 150k monthly sometimes a little above that.
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Anonymous Aug 15, 12:38 AM

You know living outside town comes with a disadvantage, the long traffic in the morning and evening and also the distance which will amount to higher fuel usage if you calculate on the long run. I prefer a closer place like gwarimpa, galadimawa or lokogoma, and rents are relatively cheaper there than the main town. I live in Garki presently and its okay.
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Fateemah Ahmad Alkalee Aug 15, 09:44 AM
try to adjust your living standard and think of other ways or other small businesses that could raise your income working alone couldn't help you you have to invest your money into some businesses that could help you earn more as for the other one pray hard,keep fasting, ask forgiveness and seek refuge in Allah in Sha everything will be okay May Allah ease your affairs
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Anonymous #3 Aug 15, 11:26 AM

that's great bro, Ina Maka fatan alkhairi Amma mu da ko 30k salary bmu dshi ga TP and feeding, schll every morning assignment etc hka nn muke rayuwa🤣. Amma gaskiya idan mota kale hwa ka ije ta ka SAMO bicycle Mai kyau indai har journey nka be wuce 30 minutes, haka Kuma kayi adjusting yadda kk kashe kudin abinci. kana son budurwan k toh gaskiya aure yafi muhimmanci sosai for now akan kayi luxury life, idan kayi tunanin raising kudin aure zai dau time. maganar rent 2m gsk yy yawa for a start dai, gwanda ka nema na 300-500 kayi manage kafin komai yy settling
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Anonymous #4 Aug 15, 05:24 PM
Dear poster shifa aure ba Tara kudin yinshi ake ba indai ka saka niyya zakayi to Allah zai buda maka kuma ayi shi cikin walwala Allah zaita buda maka ta hanyoyin da bakayi tsammani ba amma in kace saika tara kudin aure zakayi to zaka dade bakayi ba amma ga dukkan alamu naga kaima kana son kayi babban biki ne shiyasa kake son tara kudi dayawa kafin kayi auren bansan ko dan wane gari bane Kai amma haya na gida a nan Kano ma zaka samu gida na 70k zuwa 100k shekara 1 haya mai 2 bebroom din kamar yanda kace a abujan in yaso sai ka dinga zuwa koda every weekend ne ko 2 weeks to me I prefer simple wedding ban sani ba Kai ra'ayin ka amma duk wanda za ka aura sai kayi mata bayani in babban biki kake bukata kuma sai ka bari ka tara kudin Allah y zaba mafi alkhairi.
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Ahjummaah Aug 17, 05:35 AM
sun baka shawara mai kyau 👍Allah ya taimaka
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Fatima Alfa Aug 17, 12:14 PM
may Almighty Allah help u out, and bless u with someone who will understand u so u can get married soon.but try to reduce ur experience.
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Aryatu Aug 18, 03:39 PM
you should start little by little, and pray to Allah swt that you marry the best person for you, sannan kuma aure Lokacin ne so you should stop stressing, in Allah ya rubuta you are getting married Tommorrow Toh kou kana dashi kou baka dashi you would still get married and if he wills kuma Sai kaga kou nawa kake dashi you won’t get married soo never stress and ka dage da addu’a shine kawaii,Allah ya zaba maka abinda yafi alkhairi kuma yabaka iko ya rabaka da fadawa halaka.
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Aishatu Ibrahim Sep 8, 08:57 PM
it's hard kam,but with what you are earning is enough to have a simple wedding,because the expenses of the wedding is not what matters but the life after marriage,choose wisely and don't try to impress anyone even if it's the bride,she will accept you for who you are if really she loves you😊
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