Why Do We Struggle to Connect on This Platform?

From my perspective, I’ve had the opportunity to meet several people on this platform. I’ve made good friends with some, while with others, we just didn’t connect. I often read posts mostly from women expressing how hard it is to build real connections or find serious relationships here. But from what I’ve observed, it goes both ways. First, many people here are still hurting. They’ve gone through heartbreaks and come here seeking solace because of the anonymity the platform offers. Some just want to vent or feel heard. The truth is: if you haven’t healed from a previous relationship, getting into a new one often leads to more pain, both for you and your partner. Healing should come first. Second, honesty is lacking, especially among some men. Not everyone on this platform is looking for a relationship, and that’s okay. But if you're not, say it upfront. If you’re just here for companionship or conversation, be clear about your intentions. Be honest about who you are: whether you're still in school, a salary earner, or running a small business. Not every woman is chasing after luxury or status. Some just want someone they can build with, someone who brings peace, shares their values, and grows alongside them. Faking a lifestyle only leads to disappointment down the road. Lastly, we all need to tone down our expectations and focus on what truly matters, someone who is financially stable, respectful, kind, religious, caring and loving (if that matters to you), and has good character. We all dream of a partner with millions in their account, a flawless body, or a garage full of cars. But that’s not most people’s reality. Every Friday, we see couples getting married on social media, how many of them truly fit those idealized checklists? Very few. There’s nothing wrong with wanting good things, some ladies here that I'm friends with, their phone is my 6 month salary 😂 go for your size but let the basics be your deal breakers, not superficial qualities. If we’re all just a little more honest, with ourselves and each other—things would be so much better.