Hello Everyone, Im wishing you all a successful 2025. I am writing this with a very heavy heart, There's this lady that i have loved for the past 5 years, she's the only one i ever loved ever since i started dating. We have already planned our future and everything and i will soon send my family to there house about our marriage. But i recently met another lady, we are already very close and i have fallen deeply for her and she loves me too with all her heart, we are always and constantly talking, she's the type of girl i have ever waited, Her vibes, Her craziness and everything is all i ever wanted from any lady, She's the complete opposite of the one im about to get married too, I am totally confused. Can anyone please give me advice on what to do, My heart is telling me that this new lady is one i should marry, but i will completely destory the other lady bcos of what i built with her. Im totally crazy and always in deep thinking. I want them both but i must choose one
you're mad and also not serious why did you keep deceiving the first one while you knw she didn't have some criteria that you want like the craziness and the vibe irinku kuke za mana zagi wlh
marry the two at once then
no insults please, he is seeking advice and one can fall in such situation
I have nothing to advice this one he's just selfish ne kanshi kamar goro
Honestly, if you break her heart, you'll reap what you sow. You'll face Allah's wrath, and He won't forgive you for hurting her. If you knew she didn't have the qualities you want in a woman, why did you stay in the relationship for so long?
This is one of African people greatest problems, They just insult people and judge them because that is all they are good at, I came here confused and asking for an advice, You have no idea about the whole story and yet you Just insult me, Clap for yourself
The thing is the first lady very boring to be with, i did everything i can to change her but to no avail, like you won't understand the feeling
Im beginning to regret coming here for advice sef, I mean Africans enjoy insulting And saying all sort of things without considering the situation someone is. Unfortunately it is in our nature and we just have to deal with it
Why will i not insult you since you didn't write the complete story for us
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Toh Dan uwa tunda tun farko kayi detecting din hka kuma babu gyra ai da baka bari kunyi wannan jimawar ba.......nobody will be able to solve this perplexed situation you re in right now sai istikhara! ..... Amma gaskiya 5years bawasa ba.
it is ok to fall out of love, you are only human, what's not ok is not being straight about it! be kind end the 5years relationship,marriage takes all the love u can give go for the one u desire and dream of pray on it, may Allah SWA make it easy on all of you
it may not be fair, who are we to judge! what is commitment if at the end of the day we are not happy, love is a strong pillar in marriage, when there is doubt, it is ok to opt out is better than unhappy marriage and broken home/divorce that is rampant in our community. I think we should applaud his honesty and strength to even ask for the advise,we are all humans, we shouldn't judge, it is more of a sin if he marry her out of pretence and resent her in the future
don't mind our ignorance, we don't need to know the whole story, the fact that it is the matter of the heart, we wish a brother a happy successful marriage not a failed one, if u marry someone out of commitment not love the marriage have failed from its very foundation
e don tey wey I see plenty comments like this. bro Allah yazaba maka mafi alkairi.š
Do istikhara, Allah ya tabbatar da alheri Ameen.
This my brother just vex me walai
sometimes taking what you like can make you lose what is better for you or what is perfect for you.... so brother think wise.... I believe the first girl loved you why the other girl she's giving you joy..... do you want to be loved or joy??... I don't know maybe you should take the two.... smiling
Follow your heart, but seriously if you loved the first one you wouldn't have considered someone else.
Every of our decisions have consequences though. No fear, its better now than later.
see you šš the thing dey sweet ur belly
Ignore him, the fact is that, i will go for the second lady if i was you, i don't like boring people and you will eventually start thinking i should have gone for the other lady. Do what you heart feels most at rest with
Sannunka da aiki Anonymous
You have made a mistake by not unveiling to both what your situation is at the time....you should be diplomatic don't let go the first and don't for the second too.
this one got meššmad not serious
period.
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