my dilemma on whom to select for marriage.

I'm confused between 2 guys. the first one he's well to do, works abroad (where I'm working too), religious, calm but he's not that good looking so I am not attracted to him. also we're family friends so our families kind of know about us and that's something that bothers me sometimes because I don't want a situation where things become serious with families getting involved while I am not ready yet. I clearly told him I'm not ready to take it to next step yet because I'm trying to figure out if I can develop feelings for him. He used to send me cute messages when I told him it's what I like but I find it hard reciprocating and he stopped. I feel like he needs to do these things to win me over but in his defense he said he doesn't see the point of doing it if I'm not reciprocating. so we just continue phone calls and that's all. the second guy, I'm attracted to him, he's ok too religious wise and well to do and he loves me, he's been wanting to be serious with me but I kept pushing him away and he lives in Nigeria. He told me that he's ready to settle and even a week before he sent his elders to ask for another's hand he told me if I am interested he's willing to hold off. so now Im starting to like the second guy and I feel it's late, I told him im now ready to start a relationship and he said he still loves me and will marry me when I come back to Nigeria. please advise. is it worth to wait and get married to the second guy as a second wife or try to develop feelings for the 1st guy.?